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All Rugs Have to Be Cleaned So What's Under Yours?

Growing up in a house full of people (11) to be exact, my parents always kept rugs around the house especially in the living room, I honestly think we had them in almost every area of the house but being a kid I was not concerned with the why I just know I had to keep them clean. The thing that prompted me to ask "What's the Purpose of A Rug", is getting my own apartment. The purpose is for covering an area with some damage or to make sure that a room is presentable. We have all purchased rugs whether small, medium, large, or x-large, to make sure it would fit in the space we wanted it to lay. The thing is do you really need a rug? I say rugs are optional. Why can’t we just leave the area where the rugs lay exposed. The reason is because, we want to keep that spot covered or want to do what's pleasing to our eyes but don't realize what follows after.

The bigger the rug the more work it will take to clean it. I want you to think about a rug and the times you had to clean it. The things that you discovered under them when you pulled them back. I bet you was pretty shocked or disgusted. I don’t care if you are a daily sweeper, you’ll discover things still get swept under the rug. I’m sorry for busting your Mr./Mrs. Clean bubble but that’s the truth. The way the dirt made it way under the rug most times was unintentional and let’s keep it real some time intentional. The unintentional is from people walking in the house with shoes on. The intentional is picking the corner of the rug up, taking the broom, and sweeping the dirt under the rug. I’m not gone lie and say I haven’t done that as a kid when I was trying to hurry up and fake clean. I’m sure if my momma knew what I had done, she would probably added extra chores. She was under the impression that the floor was swept and nothing was under the rug. I’m sure when it was time to clean it, she questioned under it, but her focus was how to get it cleaned. When it comes to cleaning, how it' is cleaned is based on the size of a rug. A small rug typically can fit in the washer and dryer at your house, in the basement of your mama house, or your baby mama/daddy house. The medium rug can probably fit in the laundromat down the street from the liquor store. The large rug is the one that you can probably take out in the backyard and shampoo, condition, and hose down. The x-large rug sis you might as well hang it up and call a professional upholstery service because you don’t have the capability or knowledge to clean it. I would say you have a lot of dirt build up and covering it up isn’t the only thing taking place. The rug has an unpleasant smell forming and eventually will become tore up. The person at that point must decide to repair it or get rid of it.

Relationships have a variation of rugs, the reason I know because I have experienced many throughout my life. I was a habitual rug sweeper in relationships because I was a PP (people pleaser) not PPP loan. The thing is I didn’t realize how much cleanup was needed for the rugs as a result of continuously sweeping things under. The bigger the rug the more expensive it is to clean up. The cleanup isn’t the only thing I didn’t know but the sizing of rugs and pricing. Small rugs (5X8) were the ones when I would just hold in my mind and just take a mental note. Medium rugs (8X10) were the ones that I would tell the closest person to me my thoughts but still make sure that after talking to them I swept that ish right under the rug. The large rugs (9x12) were the ones that I told multiple people about and still didn’t have the courage to discuss. I would gladly walk right on over to the broom and sweep it under rug. The x-large rugs 12x15) would be the ones and incident happen and I have no way of knowing how address or scared of being confrontational and I completely shut down. When I say this rug reminds you of shopping and after seeing all the store had to offer, you like yep, this the one right here. The one where your mama gone call one person and next thing you know the entire family involved. I’m talking about three-way, so your three-way, can three-way because the tea so hot and nobody wants to keep spilling it.

The same people who are talking about the consequences as a result of the rug sweeping you have done, are the same people in denial of their shortcomings and silent members of the “Rug Sweepers”. Rug sweeping is usually a learned behavior passed from one person to another. What I’m saying is it’s contagious and if you aren’t careful, you find yourself needing to be delivered from it. Imagine having rug that you have not only created but having either fix or get rid of it. The position to make a decision that can affect a relationship, creates flight or flee in some people. Growing up I saw so many relationships suffer because of rug sweepers. The issues were never resolved, and people went to their graves still mad about something that happened 26 years ago. I have watched others never get a chance to let a person know they weren’t mentally in a space or place to have a conversation at that time in their life. I have seen people hurt other but being guilty of association. The one thing common with these rugs, someone always end up hurt. The hurt person usually isn’t the rug sweeper but the person who you offended or didn’t fix your issue with. I experienced this was someone very close to me and as a result we didn't speak for years because I had an x-large rug. Yes, the friend I am isn't because I was born this way it's because of the lessons I learned from being a "Rug Sweeper". I thank God because that relationship was salvageable once I identified the rug I owned. I had to not only identify the rug but make sure I was in a place where it was no longer needed and I was ready to pay the price to clean it up. Many people want to sweep things under the rug instead of paying the price to fix it or clean it properly. The price is often accountability, forgiveness, space needed, or eventually finding out all you have done will never repair the relationship with that person. Just remember when you make the choice to sweep things under the rug, “All rugs have to be Cleaned”.

What’s rugs are you housing and what can you do to clean them? Is the rug worth the end of a relationship? What’s under your rug? Are you a silent member of the Rug Sweepers?

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