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Off the Top by C Nicole

"Your Voice is Your Power"

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About C Nicole

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C Nicole is a wife, mother, sister, friend, aunt, and so many other things. I created "Off the top by C. Nicole" to take you on a journey of my inner thoughts. Growing up my parents always told me I say whatever comes to mind without thinking. I must say, they were absolutely right. The older I became the more I realized I journaled my thoughts but never released them. The people closest to me would only get a snippet, but now the time has come to share with the world. My blog is a place where you get to hear the thoughts I have as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and human being. 

 

So grab your coffee, tea, and it's five o'clock where you are, grab your adult beverage!

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Yesterday I was driving on the highway headed to my niece/goddaughter's birthday party and saw a sign that said to expect delays due to an accident. I shouted loudly, "You can't be serious; we are going to be late." The highway got backed up quickly, and I stopped and paused and said, "We will eventually get there." I was reminded how a few months ago when I went through a delay myself, and your girl was livid. The two things dealt with insurance in two separate fields: home and health. Look here; I used the little PTO hours I had remaining for a doctor's appointment. I was driving, listening to my trap music, and my phone rang. I instantly smacked my teeth and rolled my eyes because I knew what time it was. The doctor's office only calls for one or three things, bad news, money, or rescheduling appointments. I knew I had paid all my bills and was already aware of the report, so an appointment cancellation was the only thing that came to mind.



My preauthorization was not approved because the doctor's office dropped the ball, delaying my surgery. Let me tell you something, the words I uttered were not holy. I was ready to Jazmine Sullivan and "Bust the Windows out of their cars; however, I took deep breaths and turned around. I was frustrated because I felt like I was getting hit with a left and right from each direction. I strategically planned my life out for the next few months but had to now rearrange due to someone else holding up the process. I had to pivot and come up with a new game plan. My cousin's voice was playing in my head as I remembered our conversation about missing church that past Sunday and all I could say was, "Heffa." She reminded me of the seasoned folks who be like God Don't Like Ugly". I seriously was like God was not pleased with me and didn't want to talk about it; however, my closest friends and family offered me some encouraging words and put things in perspective. I have to be transparent and say it worked for a few days, and the longer I was delayed, the more impatient I became. I was back in the sunken place all over something that was delayed but not denied



Delayed

When a delay happens, we tend to question it. We get beside ourselves and try to force something we can not control. We try everything to speed up the process, sometimes leading to an extended delay. We may never understand the reasoning; behind the delay; however, it's in our best interest. A flight delay is usually for safety reasons, but we get agitated because we are ready to reach our destination. School delays are due to inclement weather, so now the parents are stuck with a shadow, and me time becomes we time. We look at delays like denial and go through various emotions for something not right now but in due time. We don't consider that things still have to be ironed out. What if the doctor performing my surgery hands were doing the Harlem Shake (shaky) on the original day of my surgery? What if the flight that's taking you to Miami didn't get the slight repair done before taking off? What if you were watching the evening news and saw a deadly accident took place down the street at 7:30 that morning, and if your child's bus was on the road, it would have been them? We have to look at our lives delays as nothing but protection. God sees ahead further ahead than we do. He knows some of the things we desire, the timing may not be good, or it's still things in the background that need to be worked out.


If only we could remember who is the Pilot of our lives and that a co-captain is not needed. It's a solo flight, and God will get us to our destinations. Focus on the positive things and change your mindset. Know that no matter what, God is in control, and trust he will get you to your destination safely. So buckle up, and although you may feel tired, trust that you are delayed and not denied.

I challenge you not to let today's delays hinder you on your way!

  1. What do you do when you experience a delay?

  2. How can you change your mindset, or what things can you do as you are waiting for approval?

  3. Do you look at a delay as a sign to stop whatever process you are doing or to keep going with hesitation?

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Have you ever received a gift from someone in a gift bag and could not wait to open it? Recently I was walking around my house gathering all the gift bags I received over the past few months so I could store them safely. If you know me, I'm the person who keeps gift bags, and based on their condition, I regift them. Yeah, I said it, so stop clutching your pearls as you have never done or thought about it. I'm sorry I have to live in my truth, and hopefully, you'll appreciate that I'm stretching your coins. In the moment of storing the bags, gratitude hit me because, in all honesty, nobody has to do anything for me. I became thankful that someone took their hard-earned money and thought of me enough to go to the store/online to pick out a gift. Although they purchased them, I was not obligated to open them at the time given. What would happen if I waited months or years to unwrap them? I would never know what people blessed me with, which prompted me to think about how many gifts we have but never unwrap them and just sit on them until we are ready?


Why Do We Sit On Our Gifts?

The longer you sit on your gifts and put them to the side for later, the easier it is not to unwrap them. I say this because any time I have gift cards, most times, they end up on my nightstand until I'm ready to pull them out. I don't use them immediately because I feel like I got all the time in the world when that's not even the case. I don't know about you, but your girl isn't trying to lose any gift cards, especially if it's for Starbucks. I learned my lesson about expiration dates on a gift card on a good Friday evening after work. I had a taste for some Chili's, so I remembered there was a gift card I had on my nightstand. I thought I was about to tear up some buffalo boneless wings and fries. Let me tell you, I could smell the ranch in the air, see the grease on the fries, and the celery sticks hanging to the side as I was adding them to my cart. Your girl went to check out, and that damn card said expired. I was fighting the air as I shouted, "I Know You Lying." I bet that was the first and last time I did that foolishness because my feelings were hurt, and I had to use my coins. I messed around and lost the gift set aside for me because I decided to wait and not realize that the clock was ticking.



We also sit on those gifts because of fear. Do you know that fear will either do two things, make you flee or put you in a paralyzing state. "If You Flee, You Will Never Be Who God Created You to Be". If You Stay Still, You Can't Fulfill God's Will. Fear isn't the only other thing but the opinions of others and lack of direction. I can only imagine if we realized sooner that if God gave us the gift, he would direct our paths. In order to unwrap our gifts, we must stop storing them in our notebooks, phones, and computers, or discussing with others what we will do with them. I hate to break the bad news to you, because if all you do is talk and write it down, you will never get to walk in your gifts. You have to eliminate the doubts and "Walk it Out" because your gift is not always about you, but it might be for someone else.





We don't know what's on the other side of the gifts we encompass. The thing on the other side might be what will allow you to buy your mama a house or, hell yourself. What if the next million-dollar idea, the encouragement someone needs to leave a toxic relationship, or partnership, was on the other side of your gifts? You will never find out if you don't start unwrapping those gifts. I challenge you to unwrap your gifts and activate them because if you do not, they will "Expire" (die).


  1. What gifts are you sitting on?

  2. Why have you yet to start unwrapping them?

  3. Are you willing to leave this earth full or empty because you have not begun to activate them?

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Hey, it's your girl Chermaine Nicole (aka C Nicole), and I'm the creator of "Off the Top by C Nicole" blog! "Off the top by C Nicole" was created in 2022 as an outlet for those who may feel their voice has been muted. I also started this blog, so those who feel like they are a hostage to their thoughts can feel free to let that "Shit" out without judgment. Trust me I have been in a position where I had no voice, so letting my voice be heard is necessary as well as others. If you are new to my blog or have been following me for a while, Thank You. I promise you are guaranteed to leave in deep thought but since you decided to stop by, let's take a moment to get to know me.

Who is C Nicole?

I am one of the most dopest people you will or may never meet lol. I'm 38 years old and the youngest of 9 siblings. I was born and raised in Gary, Indiana, and my parents have been happily married for 38 years (Goals). I am a person who will give you the shirt off my back without expecting something in return. I am caring and resilient, value everyone around me, and love motivating others. I'm a lover, not a fighter, but don't get it twisted, "I Will Knuck if You Buck" because God ain't through with me yet. I reside in Indianapolis, Indiana, with my husband of almost ten years, JaJuan (my chocolate drop), and my reasons my two boys, Amare (15) and Josiah (8). If anyone had asked me 15 years ago if I saw myself in the place I'm in, I would say no. My home is where I feel the safest, and it also makes me call upon the name of the Lord lol. I'm clearly outnumbered but wouldn't change it for anything in the world.


Fun Facts!

I love to dance and will bust a move as soon as the beat drop. Growing up, I wanted to be a professional dancer, and I recorded every video and learned all the dance steps. I'm the best table dancer (not stripper, "Bands Don't Make Me Dance"), love roller skating, playing basketball, writing poetry, researching (ask my family), and believe it or not, I love rapping. The thing I like most is journaling, which has led me to blogging. So grab your favorite coffee, tea, and if it's five o'clock where you are, grab your favorite adult beverage and enjoy my past and upcoming blogs!








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